Back To Working

I know I haven’t blogged for a very long time. It has been nonstop work for 3 weeks, 12 hour days, 7 days a week.

So we got a call that a refinery had a fire and the company I work for handles all of their claims. They asked if I could work this storm especially since it not far from where we live. Of course I said yes. Unfortunately, because it was already after 10a.m. we had less than 10 hours to depart as I had a meeting at 8 am the following morning. I, of course couldn’t reach Dale so had to just pack, throwing things together. But we made it to the Sacramento area by 3am, plenty of time.

This storm is quite different for me. We are working inside an office and handling everything by phone. We have a team of about 20, down from maybe 30 last week to handle over 13,000 claims. I myself have nearly 700 but have closed about 300 already.

I was hoping that this would be something that would last for months but everything seems to change sometimes minute by minute. But I think the overview is that we will scale back quickly in the next 2 weeks, maybe a couple of people will stay and the rest will go off to then next storm or home.

I’d really like to stay; we are about 5-6 hour drive from home but only a 1 hour flight. 1-1/2 hour drive from Clayton’s if I can start having a day off and it is just good steady work. But there are several guys who want to stay are starting to put their nose up the supervisor’s butt. Makes one sick but that is office politics. So I just do my work and what our supervisor decides so be it. If I can work 2 more weeks great, then another 2 weeks is even better and so on.

Winning A Contest takes a Village

I love to enter contests. There was a period in time when I was winning something all the time. One week I even won 3 different contests. But for the past few years I haven’t won anything. In the old days though it was all mail-in now I do everything online.

Now usually the contests are those such as The Travel Channel contest or HGTV, just fill in the blanks and click, off it goes. Well 2 weeks ago I entered a photo contest online thru the Santa Fe School of Cooking on facebook. Now it really wasn’t about the fancy photo but rather how many votes one received. Of course it was great for the School as they gathered lots more people for interest in their stuff, which is good stuff by the way. But because the winner was dependant on votes it became a little more than a photo contest.

But no matter what the contest was or wasn’t, the prize was a cooking class for 2 and since we want to attend 3 classes this was a great opportunity. The top 3 vote getters were the winners.

I made a pot of Calabasa and took several photos with different light then entered my photo after dinner. There were 2 entries already, one with 3 or 4 votes. Unfortunately, I play to win, I HATE losing. I sent out a message and link to all of my facebook friends but no response. I voted for myself on my mom’s account (she couldn’t figure it out), voted on my husband’s account, and then started asking a little more seriously.

The contest was closing on Saturday night and I’d gotten about 10 votes, unfortunately, several didn’t go thru, but another person’s count went up to 12. I wanted to be at the top! I asked my daughter-in-law, Jen, if she’d voted, and she said yes. But when I told her I was only about 3 away from being 1^st she got on the stick. Friends and relatives started talking on facebook, keeping tabs as the votes came in. My facebook messages were flying and texts coming in for a couple of hours.

I’m happy to announce that I did come in 1^st. But what was so fun is that so many people were cheering me on, trying to find another vote. It really took a little village.

And what was really great is that in the end there were 6 photos, some with only 1 vote. Santa Fe School of Cooking was gracious enough to give all participants a prize.

Now to get to Santa Fe and learn some pointers on New Mexican cooking!

Money; Easy Come, Easy Go

This week is really tight for money. Not the end of the world, but like everyone, we had just too many things happen recently.

I was looking in a kitchen drawer for something and found 2 receipts for cash refunds from recyclables we’d turned in a while back. They totaled over $20. Wow, that would give us just a little extra for the week. I know it isn’t much but we had enough food and fuel already, so it was just a “just in case”.

Now we recycle our glass and plastic; we take it to a recycling post. The post issues a receipt that we must take to a nearby store where we exchange it for cash. In this case we did not take the receipt in right away.

We had some errands to run before going to the gym so we added obtaining our cash to the list. But 1st I had to go to the bank and put a little in our account. We got in the drive thru lane but found we didn’t have a pen so I could write a check from one bank into this one. I left my husband to drive thru the drive thru and I ran into the bank to write the check.

After writing the check I went back out and found my husband still in line at the drive thru so hopped into the truck. We deposited our check and as we were driving away I realized that I did not have the receipts for our cash refund. I searched the truck then ran into the bank, no receipts. I walked thru the drive thru lane but couldn’t see under the cars in line; but no receipts where I could see. We drove back home to look but no receipts.

Back to the bank. This time I went thru the line inside and there someone had turned in the receipts. The teller handed us an envelope with the receipts inside. We couldn’t believe our luck!!!

We went across the parking lot to exchange our receipts for cash. We got into the store; it is a very small store. We handed over the receipts and told the cashier that we had many adventures just getting there. The cashier looked at our receipts and then looked at us. “There is a small problem here” he said, “these receipts expired 2 months ago”. He showed us the small print that we’d neglected to read. OOPS!!!

When Is Airport Security Really Security

I’m assuming that most of the blog readers have flown, some many times but most have been thru security on more than one occasion. So we all know how very important it is to have our shoes and limited amounts of liquids checked, oh so thoroughly!

I recently flew home on a 2-leg flight and was glad that I actually made it back. My meeting was over at noon and my flight home didn’t leave until 7pm so I was in no hurry at all.

I got to the airport about 3 hours early and actually hoped that I could catch the earlier flight so that I could pick up some Starbucks. I had the check-in email sent to my phone so that I could use it instead of the usual check-in at a kiosk or counter. Since no one was at the counter I mentioned to the representative that I’d check in at security but asked about catching the earlier flight. She said that they’d been having some problems with that system so she’d just get my boarding passes for me and that I couldn’t get the earlier flight. She asked my last name and looked in the computer, finding it quickly. She printed my boarding passes and I was on my way.

I went thru security, they checked my laptop and shoes but the woman behind me had a sparkly sweater and they were concerned about patting this woman down. Wow, now sparkles can be so dangerous you know!

So off I went to finish my Netflix I’d been watching while I waited for my flight. I thought to check my boarding pass just to verify the flight and gate before settling in. What a shock, I was on the earlier flight. I then checked the 2^nd leg and saw that it was to Canada. Now I love visiting Canada but hadn’t planned to go there that night. Then I looked more closely and saw that I had boarding passes for a different person. I found that our names were basically the same but slightly different spellings.

I went to the gate desk and pointed out the error. Those boarding passes were snatched from my hands so quick and new ones printed.

Now I understand how the airline made an error but the TSA supposedly scrutinized my boarding pass and photo ID. Hum, now I’m wondering how I got thru? Did they not check? What was that person doing anyway? I mean it isn’t brain surgery that these people are doing. And if I could get thru with someone else’s boarding passes how can we be sure that they won’t give the same amount of inattention to someone who has ill intent.

Just makes you wonder what we are paying for here.

A Beautiful Granddaughter Lost

How life can turn so quickly. I wrote this in Feb but could not bear to put it into print until now as it was too painful.

We’d planned to go to our son’s in the bay area for the weekend; hold our little granddaughter for a while and then babysit the 15 month old while they had a date night Saturday night. We wanted to spend a little time with the baby before she underwent open heart surgery on the next Monday.

Late Thursday the Doctors advised our son and wife that the prognosis for our granddaughter was actually very grim. Our granddaughter faced a short life of heart surgeries, other surgeries and uncontrollable seizures that were actually just starting to manifest themself; a life that is very difficult to manage. The kids decided to stop the suffering.

We drove up to their house with heavy hearts stopping at the hospital as planned. Holding our little granddaughter, all hooked up to machines, I felt so badly for her. The only thing she knew was to be poked and prodded with tubes in her and stuff stuck onto her. She had never even seen the sun. I cried as I held her close.

On Saturday instead of a date night for our son and daughter in law, the 4 of us sat at the table discussing the decision to not use extraordinary means to prolong life and how best to celebrate it. Our brave kids having to make horrible decisions. We went on to our room and leaving our son and daughter-in-law downstairs then heard the anguished cries from a distraught mother.

Sunday arrived and with heavy hearts we drove down to the hospital for some family time. We took the 15 month old for her goodbyes and some photos. When we arrived our little baby had been disconnected from everything but oxygen. The nurse helped take her outside for some family time and photos. Her first time in the sun and fresh air.

The hospital then had the family go to a private room where my daughter-in-law would stay with her baby until the end, whenever that might be.

We are now going up to say goodbye to our little one. We will be there for our son/wife and stay to help in any capacity that we can. This was to be such a happy time for them, a new baby born on Jan 10^th, a new year. The little dresses are all lined up, a new crib with new bedding waiting for the new arrival. Now everything must be put away, it must break my daughter-in-law’s heart.

As we know having experienced tragedy before, they will move on, put this in a box, but they will never forget the little girl they had for such a short time.

Addicted to Downton Abbey

My husband, Dale, and I have been completely immersed in all things “Downton Abbey”. He was still working last year when Season 1 aired so I watched it alone, hooked. Just before Season 2 started in January our Public Television station aired season 1 and I insisted that he watch. After a few minutes he was hooked as well.

So on nearly all of our Sunday evenings for some time now, we could be found in front of out telly! We’d cry at the sad parts and tell the characters what they needed to do.

Then we started watching the episodes of Season 1 on Netflix during the week. We are amazed at what we missed the first round.

When we sat down for Season 2 Episode 6 we decided to have champagne while we watched. We felt a little more like the gentrified people!

On Friday I thought that we should maybe make some Downton type food for Sunday night’s last episode and then we thought that we should invite some friends who we were sure were watching this program too. I called our friends but alas they were going out of town for this long weekend.

I investigated food of Downton and saw that they had many courses that could include a 2^nd course of roasted chicken. I remembered seeing the footmen carry platters of small hens up to the dining room in one episode.

Well I didn’t have much for small hens but I did have a couple of chicken thighs in the freezer. I took the thighs out and when they were thawed put them into a pan with cut up carrots, onions, a little garlic, some left over potatoes, salt and pepper. I roasted them for an hour at 325 F. I set up a table on our coffee table so we could be closer to the TV.

We didn’t have any claret but had some red wine which is what claret is. We got out some glasses which are a little closer to the Downton style rather than the larger ones we normally use and used those for our “claret”. We did drink champagne before dinner and then after dinner just to celebrate for the Downton people.

Way too late we thought that we should have had a true viewing party. New plan is that we won’t be found lagging. We will watch the Season 3 episodes as they are shown in the UK; I am the one who reads the last chapter of the book first remember. Then when Season 3 airs here we, of course, will watch the U.S. version. We will then have a small viewing dinner party. Since we have a year to plan I’ll make a dress for myself and will actually make tails for Dale and serve a true Downton type dinner. I wonder who we can get for footmen!

Not So Quick Last Minute Trip

Last minute travel, not all options are great.

So my son called this morning asking if I could come up by 11 tomorrow morning. The new baby will have her heart surgery and they really need someone to care for the 16 month old. Babysitter leaves at 11a.m. and my son has no time off available so they really need someone to help.

I looked at United but there are no flights available for tomorrow morning. The flight for early a.m. isn’t available. Then looked at Amtrak but that arrives at 11:40. It is only $49 but just a little too late and the return is too early. Looked at rental cars, esh- $120 + gas. Realized that I’ll need a round trip so looked at United again but it is $450 even though there is now a flight available. Looks like the best option is driving. UGH 5 hours in the Mazda, my poor back.

Mazda has a clunk but we now think that it may be part of the emission system that won’t pass smog, can’t tag it either but at least the registration fee is paid. Hope I don’t get a ticket for no tags!

I’ll try to leave at 5am. Dale peeled and packed 3 oranges; I cooked and peeled 2 eggs. I have an apple and a gluten free bar. Should make it to Petaluma without starving.

It will be good to see our little 16 month old. She apparently is excited to see her gama and points to the room I stayed in when there.

I’ll drive home tomorrow night picking up other grandkids on the way home. Wish me luck.

Taos and Beyond

Like I posted earlier we were going to fly to Taos, NM in order to save Dale’s Frequent Flier Miles from expiring. Good logic according to us.

We flew into Albuquerque and drove to Taos last night arriving in time to eat dinner. We checked into our hotel, The Historic Taos Inn, right at the plaza. I’d reserved early and got us a room with a kiva (pueblo type fireplace) and we were happily surprised to find wood and fire starter waiting for us. The old hotel is made up of adobe buildings from the 1800’s and I think, but am not sure, that there is a newer wing too. We wanted the old part.

We went to Doc Martins for dinner, the restaurant attached to the hotel. When the waitress came over I asked about gluten in the New Mexican meals and was dismayed to find that everything New Mexican contains flour. I can eat steak at home; I wanted enchiladas or something local. The waitress spoke to the chef and then reported that the chef would make a special meal, New Mexican, gluten free just for me. So I had a trout fillet with a cream/chili top and corn/small squash/chilies and cheese. We drank an entire bottle of New Mexico champagne with dinner.

This morning after a breakfast of chili stew from another favorite restaurant we went off to the Picuris Pueblo. This pueblo is off of the high road between Taos and Santa Fe, a road we have often wanted to drive. The road was cleared of snow so we were able to drive without a problem.

The Picuris Pueblo is quite different than the Taos Pueblo in that there is not a central plaza with homes on 2 sides. Here there is a church, the 3^rd one built there from the 1700’s; I hate to ask the years of the prior 2. The church is not located in the plaza but stands alone then houses are nearby and extend up the hill.

We stopped at the administration building and asked about the store we’d read about. Well the store has been under remodel for several years and remodel has not been completed. We then asked if there was Picuris pottery available nearby, that we’d prefer to buy from the potter if possible. The 2 people in the office discussed who the local potters were and decided we should see Irene Simbula who lives at the top of the short hill. Now Irene doesn’t have a phone so we just had to drive there but she should be home. They drew a detailed map with Grandma’s house and Aunt someone’s house and Irene’s house.

About 5 minutes later we were at what we figured was Irene’s house. We went to the door and asked the woman who answered if she was Irene Simbula and she answered “yes”. We asked if she had pottery available and she said yes and invited us in. She pulled out of bags pots that she had made; after the mud was blessed she washed the mud then made the pots, then during the winter fired the pots in her wood burning stove that we were standing next to. The pots can be used to cook beans in; she brought in her own pot from off the stove, about 60 years old. Apparently, her daughter also makes beautiful pots that we fell in love with.

We were only going to purchase one pot and even though we loved the one by her daughter we wanted the one made by Irene. Then I felt very strongly that we should buy both. I told Dale that we had to get both pots, and then told Irene. After we paid for the pots she told me how she had just been divorced, husband had run off with someone else, business has been slow, she had recent dental problems and had been worried about how to pay for her car insurance. Now she was going to be ok.

On our way back to Taos I had a huge scare. We’d decided to drive the road thru the Rio Grande. We did but then had to go back to the high road due to snow. Once on the high road I wanted to stop to shoot photos. We crossed the busy highway and I shot photos from the shoulder. After finishing up we thought we run back across as there was a never ending stream of cars. As I got into the middle of the lane I tripped and fell, my camera banging on the asphalt. I was so scarred, as I’d noticed a car coming around the corner, certain that I was about to be hit I got up, trying to run. Fortunately my husband was right there and stopped me as the car had stopped in that lane. So hands scrapped, knee thumped and camera banged up we made it back to Taos. Camera was a big concern but with the heavy body it survived, lens didn’t even seem to take a hit at all.  

I consoled myself at a little restaurant that only serves gluten free New Mexican food eating chili rellenos as a snack before dinner.

Exploring the Exploratorium

After getting adults off to the Fancy Foods we piled the kids in the truck and were off to Lucas Films then the Exploratorium.

We had planned to eat lunch with Clayton at Lucas Films but he got busy with work so we just did a little walking and visiting. Fortunately we’d brought plenty of food so we were able to have a picnic.

We got to the Exploratorium and for those of you who are thinking of visiting, across the street to the north is a parking lot, maybe a 5 minute walk. When we were there it was free. We found a picnic table close by and set out our food, fed kids then off to the Exploratorium.

The Exploratorium is in what was the Palace of Fine Arts; it is an old building from a World’s Fair many years ago. The Exploratorium will be moving so you will want to check the location to make sure.

It is filled with everything hands-on for kids of every age. The 2-3 year olds loved running around with the light strips on the floor, running their hands thru the sand experiments and making lights go off and on.

I really enjoyed being with the 4 year old. He realized that there was a cause and effect so that cranking a wheel caused an umbrella to go up, air out of a pump caused balls to stay in the air at different levels depending on the amount of air. So much of the time he has to stop this or that, or he turns knobs just to turn knobs. He got so excited and would call “Grandma come see”. I loved the excitement in seeing the effects of what he did.

Our 11 year old, on the other hand, was not so enthusiastic. Her comment to mom was “machines were mostly broken”. She did little and had little interest other than guiding the 2 and 3 year olds around. It was quite disappointing but then you can’t make a person like something.

The 13 year old enjoyed the older kids’ experiments. I didn’t find out his favorites or impressions, but then he is 13 and at that age you just hope that things work out.

We were lucky at the RV park, guys had decided that they really didn’t need to stay for Wed, but the RV park said that we could leave the RV there until 6pm and they’d refund the difference. Most parks won’t refund anything so we were quite happy with that. 

San Francisco with Grandkids

We got to the RV park by about 10:30 last night, Justin and boys asleep on the dinette and Camillo asleep on the couch. The night security met us at the gate and gave us a site but said it would cost $96 to camp, cash. The RV manager had not mentioned that we needed cash but fortunately we had nearly enough and our son had $20 so we paid up.

This morning the office found that the night security had charged too much so refunded some money. Fortunately we’d had enough otherwise we would have had to go find a bank for cash only to have overpaid. So it is the perils of travel.

We got out a bottle of Pipestone wine, some cheeses, set our picnic out on our bed and had a little midnight snack.

Today we took the 5 kids to the “California Academy of Science” which is comprised of the aquarium, natural history and planetarium. It is a little costly but worth it for a day of interesting play. We got into the building by about 11:00 and with only ½ our lunch we walked all day until about 3pm.

We started with the aquarium then stopped for a quick lunch. After lunch Dale took the 2 older kids to the planetarium program. There are no kids 3 and under allowed in the program and under 6 are discouraged. I took the little kids back to the aquarium to see the rest of the fish. The tide pool fish thrilled the grandkids just like our own kids so many years ago.

The natural history area is not large, much smaller than I remember, but maybe we missed an area too, we were getting tired by then. Kids loved the Lions and the Zebras. The natural history area consists of both stuffed animals and live in different exhibits of course. Kids loved the stuffed lions and Zebra’s, but also loved the live penguin exhibits, penguins swam right at their eye level.

We had to make one stop at the museum store. I forgot our 4 year old grandsons clothes and our 13 year old forgot his clothes. I bought them some clean t-shirts. Also we started buying some birthday presents for the 2 year old whose birthday is Tues. We planned to have a party at the Zoo but we will just get the presents instead.

When we got done kids were tired. They slept on the way back to the RV but didn’t sleep long; they will go down soon.

Starting our Grandkids Trip to San Francisco

Finally, we are on the road! 3 little kids in car seats in the back seat of our truck, 2 adults and 2 big kids in the RV. We gave the 2 big kids Dale’s laptop and Justin brought his, so they will use the hotspot card we have and be online until we lose our signal, an hour or so up I-5. I have a hotspot in my phone so we have that here in the truck for my laptop.

Getting ready was such a chore, had a bunch of laundry to do and kids had made shambles out of the house. I did get bathrooms cleaned, sheets changes and with my grandkids help we cleaned the rest of the house plus washed the kitchen floor to avoid the ants.

As usual, the only way to do these trips within reason is to cook all of our meals, or as many as possible. Tonight, we will stop at In-N-Out as it is a 4-1/2 hour drive, putting us into San Francisco at about 10pm. We will just do instant oatmeal for breakfast then take snacky things with us tomorrow to the Aquarium/Natural History/Planetarium. Hopefully we can take food in but if not we will just get our hands stamped and eat in the park outside. We did bring 6 bottles of wine, wish I’d brought the hard stuff too as some may prefer rum instead.

Kids are asleep, Dale is driving and I’m having some quiet time with a cup of hot coffee! 

Last Minute Plans for San Francisco

We have 3 days in San Francisco, well mostly 3 days. So Monday we will eat lunch with our middle son at Lucas Films cafeteria in Marin, then we will want to leave as early as we can on Tues so another short day there.

There are 3 things that top the list of to do’s with grandkids: 1. Zoo, 2. Exploratorium, 3. Aquarium/Natural History/Planetarium. 3 things in 3 days.

I looked up the 3 different things; hours opened and cost. Aquarium/combo is the most expensive by far and probably has more available for all 5 kids. This would be smart to do for the day we have the most time. So for a heads up, there is a $5. Per ticket charge for those tickets purchased at the door during prime times, MLK being one of them. You can purchase the tickets on-line for no extra charge and they are good for any one-time visit, which is what we did. We will pick up our tickets at the kiosk on Sunday. We will split up for a little while when Dale takes the older kids to the Planetarium, kids younger than 6 are discouraged and younger than 3 are not allowed so they will stay with me while we visit the things they like.

We will go to the Exploratorium on Monday afternoon after lunch. This will likely have most fun stuff for the older kids but not so much for younger. I think that we will split up a little here, although we can sit and have coffee while kids go on their own. We’ve been here before and the place isn’t so large that bigger kids can’t go on their own.

On Tues the plan is to go to the zoo. We will want to start for home before it is too late but we will stay for the Lion House feeding. If you haven’t experienced it before it is really an amazing experience. At least I hope it is still going. I’ll blog about it if it is still going.

So we leave tomorrow afternoon. RV is nearly packed. We will pick the adults up tomorrow afternoon and head on up the road.

Pots from the Picuris Pueblo

Many years ago I was in New Mexico and stopped at a shop for coffee, I ended up buying a bowl, about 900 years old. It had been broken and glued together so it didn’t cost much, maybe $40.00. That was the beginning of my antiquities collection. Now there are people who do not think that these items belong in private collections, I like my bowls so there it is.

Since that early bowl I’ve collected a few others, I prefer the old ones, you can feel the places where the maker placed their fingers. They are not fancy but were used for meals or everyday containers. There is a connection.

Dale bought a book on pots that we found at the Grand Canyon, turned out that our pot was discussed, or at least one like it. But recently Dale was re-reading the book and found a section on the Picuris Pueblo and their pots. The pots from this area have more mica in them giving them a glittery look. The pots are a specialty for beans, a utilitarian pot rather than one for finery. They do make all sorts of clay items though.

We did some research and found that there are pot makers and that the pots are usable. We found one who makes pots, I emailed only to hear back that she is in California. Boo! We want one from someone who lives there.

I think that we will go to the Picuris Pueblo when we are in Taos next week; it is only 30 miles from Taos. We can go to the museum and gift shop then see if we can buy something very local. Can’t wait to see how the beans turn out!

2 trips 1 week

Geez, so now that we are planning to go to New Mexico next week, yes next week, I realized that our San Francisco trip will make things really crazy.

We were not planning to go to the Fancy Foods Expo this year but then our sons asked if we’d drive the guys up, babysit kids during show hours and then the guys could have a place to sleep in our RV. This would save our son, Nate, a bunch of money. We said yes thinking that we’d just do a mini version of a grandkids trip in combination.

So I thought that the Fancy Food’s was Sat, Sun and Monday; we’d leave here on Friday and return home Monday night then fly to New Mexico on Wed a.m. and all would be hunky dory. Wrong! Fancy Food’s is Sun, Monday and Tuesday meaning that we will drive home from San Francisco on Tuesday night then fly on Wed 6a.m.

Well commitments have already been made so we must just make the best of our plans.

First we had major concerns about transporting everyone. We will drive our crew cab truck pulling our 24-1/2’ fifth wheel. We will take our middle boy, 3 other adults, plus 5 grandkids up to San Francisco, a 5 hour drive. Then we will need to drive the 4 adults to the Fancy Food’s by 10a.m. come back to the campground and pick up the 5 grandkids plus Dale and I and go to wherever we plan to go for the day. Then do the reverse by 5 pm each day for 3 days. Lots of logistics here.

So I found a campground in the city of San Francisco right at Candlestick Park. I called and talked to the manager of the park. Apparently there is a big game on Sat but if we come after 6:30 pm the rates will drop and there will be plenty of spaces. RV sites are on a parking lot and tents can’t be placed there but we will bring a tent for 2 people to stay at the tent sites.

I think that the 3 little grandkids can sleep up with us and then the older 2 can share the couch. Our son can sleep on the dinette and the other person on memory foam on the floor. Then 2 in the tent should be fine.

Driving around S.F. with 5 kids plus 2 adults in a 6 place crew cab truck will be a challenge but we will find a way to duck everyone in.

Saving the Frequent Flyer Miles

So I got an email from United saying that one of our frequent flyer accounts was going to expire if not used by Jan 31^st.  Looking up the account found that it was belonging to my husband. Since he has nearly enough miles for a free ticket we decided that we didn’t want to lose the miles.

First I got into the United site and started looking at flights to San Francisco; we could make a quick trip up to our son’s plus see our 2 granddaughters. $260 for that. Then I looked up a flight to Albuquerque, NM and that was only $218. HUM! A flight to NM with 2 legs is less than a straight thru to SFO. Crazy but true.

I booked the flight to NM for 2 weeks from today with a 2 day stay. We will leave early Wed a.m. then return Friday evening. Booked the car after looking at the United offer went to Budget directly and got a better deal, but I am a member of that.

We were discussing hotels and what to do in NM and then started thinking about Taos, the places we want to eat of course. We remembered that we’d always wanted to stay in this historic hotel just off the main plaza in Taos so I looked it up on-line. We decided to spend a little more and have a room with a fireplace so that is booked.

Now we will just wait for a couple of weeks for our fun little getaway all because we had to save my husband’s frequent flyer miles.

Living with Life's Complications

Blogging has been difficult for the past couple of months, hard to focus, hard to always find that little something that would be of interest in a blog.

I mostly think about blogging about the difficulties of our granddaughter’s medical situation; my niece has a blog about her cancer journey. Or about our life with the mostly DIY remodel that has dragged on for months upon months. This is not what I wanted for my blogs to be, they have been about those off thing that happen.

Unfortunately, most of our life for the past couple of months has been consumed with both of the above. Flying to San Francisco several Sunday’s to stay for a week to care for our 15 month old granddaughter, visiting our new granddaughter when possible (driving 1 hour each way) making sure the laundry and dishes are done and so on. Hubby drives up (5 hours) on Wed, then we return home on Friday. I’m not complaining my son and daughter-in-law have a tough time right now.

Basically, my granddaughter was born at 30 weeks. She has now been diagnosed with Noonan’s Syndrome but in the last few weeks she has had more problems crop up: a partially collapsed lung, a kidney problem, and more recently a breathing problem in which her trachea is too soft. She also has a bowel that is not placed right and it must be repaired this next week.

Our granddaughter’s birth is just one of so many born with birth defects. When one starts looking at genetic defects the lists are so long, it is amazing any of us survive as well as we do. But I have to wonder about these kids and their families.

My son and daughter-in-law have money so medical care is not a problem but they are not the norm I’m sure. When these babies are born and survive we hear it called a “miracle”; but is it really a miracle? Or is it modern medicine? Medicine has come so far and what was once a baby sure not to survive now is treated with every treatment to give a high chance of survival. A friend assured me that not that long ago the neonatal unit she worked in did not try to keep these kids alive, but due to litigation everything has changed.

But with survival comes the question, at what cost to the family? Can the family afford the cost to treat the child throughout that child’s life without bankrupting the family? What about the caregiver who must now devote their live to this child? What about the other siblings who do not get attention because of the sick child’s needs?  What about the taxpayer who supports many of these children?

I must confess that we, my husband and I, benefit from this exact situation. Kid is 20+ years old with the mind of maybe a 1 month old, mostly blind, and mostly deaf. My husband is in home health and cares for the kid 2 days a week. Easy work and supplements the pension checks now. But there is no quality of life and never has been. As a child he was entitled to an education so my husband dutifully accompanied him to school on the special needs bus. Sat there while the teachers did whatever they did.

I do not know what I’d choose if I were placed in this situation. We do not yet know the extent of our granddaughter’s disability if it will be slight or sever. We can only hope and wait.